I had a friend tell me the other day, "you make motherhood look easy!" This was a huge compliment for me because I typical feel like a hot mess just trying to get through the day in one piece! She then went on to ask me how I do it and what my days typically look like so I got to thinking....
Long before Lucas was
born, I knew I would be a working mother. While I could have chosen to stay-at-home, our lifestyle would have taken a
hit and we very much enjoy the things we have and are able to do. That being
said, I also knew it wasn’t going to be easy working a full-time job and caring
for a baby. Ask any mother and she’ll tell you that having a child is like
having a full-time job in and of itself, so add in 40 hours outside the home
and man, it’s an exhausting proposition.
I have been back to
work now for exactly two months, and as hard as it is to be away from my
beautiful boy every day, I do it happily, knowing that I am contributing financially
to our household and providing him with the best life we can. I also know that
for me, I need to have the adult interaction and the time apart. That little
boy fills my heart with so much love and joy, but I need to be something other
than his mother. I need to feel like I am a part of something else. Now, please
do not misunderstand, I have plenty of stay-at-home mom friends and I give them
so much credit for what they do. It’s not at all what people think, unless you
are filthy rich and have a nanny that helps every day, a stay-at-home mom works
just as hard, if not harder, than a working mother.
I drop L off at a
wonderful daycare center every morning on my way to work putting complete and total
trust in them that he will be clean, dry, happy and fed throughout the day. I
can then go to work and do my job with 100% focus. After work I am able to pick
him up and truly enjoy our time together.
But like I said, it’s
not easy. I have plenty of days where I struggle just to get out of bed,
depending on how well (or badly) Lucas slept. I have mornings where I can’t get
out of my own way and forget something vital (like a nipple for his bottles) at
home and have to go all the way back to get it. I started thinking “what does
my day truly look like?” And in thinking about it I got kind of a chuckle, I am
really living my life in three hour increments. I’m squeezing things in where I
can, and trying to balance the rest to the best of my ability. I’m learning to
prepare even more ahead of time (sometimes a few days) so my mornings aren’t so
crazy and I’m letting go of the small stuff.
What does a
Day-in-the-Life look like for me? Well it goes something like this:
3:00am – Nurse & Change
Lucas
5:00am – Wake Up;
Home Gym Work Out
6:00am – Nurse &
Change Lucas
6:30am – Shower &
Get Dressed
7:00am – Pack all
items for the day (my bag, Lucas’ bag, diaper bag etc)
7:30am – Drop Lucas
at Daycare
8:00am – Get to Work
8:30am – Go to Dunks
for my already much needed coffee
9:00am – Pump
9:30am – Back to Work
12:00pm – Pump
12:30pm – Back to
Work
1:30pm – Quick Lunch
at my Desk while Working
3:00pm – Pump
3:30pm – Back to Work
4:00pm – Leave to go
get Lucas
4:30pm – Pick Lucas
up at Daycare
5:00pm – Unpack my
bag, Lucas’ bag & diaper bag, wash and prep Lucas’ bottles for the next
day, change out of my work clothes
5:30pm – Make dinner
6:00pm – Feed Lucas
(usually while eating my own dinner one handed)
6:30pm – Play time
with the boy
7:30pm – Put Lucas to
bed
8:00pm – TV / Movie
time with Brian
9:00pm – Pump (if I’m
not too tired and remember to), Update my personal blog and write my contribution to True Strength of a Fit Mom, lay out clothes, bags, diapers etc for the next day
10:00pm – Bed
11:00pm – Feed &
Change Lucas
12:00am – Sleep
3:00am – Start the
Cycle Again
As mundane and tiring as it looks when I write
it all down, I can honestly say I wouldn’t change one thing. I love my job and
the people I work with. I love the time I spend with my child and husband. I
love that I’m able to feed Lucas only breast milk. I realized that I am just at
a really good place in my life and for the most part, I think I handle it with
ease. I know as L gets older things will get a bit trickier with his food,
activities, school ect. but I’m trying to take each day at a time. I want to
enjoy every phase of his growth and not rush through anything. I am looking
forward to him learning new things every day and seeing the world through his
eyes and experiences. Being a mom truly is the world’s greatest gift!